Somatic Sex and Pleasure Coaching
with The Pleasure Mechanics
Step into your full erotic potential with personalized coaching sessions, where we can offer you our full attention and complete toolbox to help you get unstuck, overcome your obstacles and explore your authentic erotic expression and pleasure potential.
We all have been taught so many myths and mistruths about sexuality our whole life, it makes sense that it is challenging to live as our most powerful, erotically alive and confident sexual self.
It is possible for you to feel the pleasure, erotic aliveness, confidence and power you want to experience in and out of the bedroom.
Through personalized somatic sex coaching Charlotte or Chris can offer you gentle support as you dismantle a lifetime of learning and rebuild an erotic self that is aligned with what you most want now.
Through Personalized Somatic Sex Coaching you can:
- Feel more erotically powerful
- Build new pleasure pathways towards your erotic fulfillment
- Feel confident enough to be able to ask for what you want and need kindly and skillfully in your erotic life and in the rest of life
- Discover what you like sexually & be able to experience new levels of pleasure and satisfaction
- Have the tools and support to reinvent your sexual self and erotic life, so that your sexuality is aligned with who you are right now and who you want to become
- Feel deeply connected to your erotic self and be able to express yourself
- Discover who you are as a unique sexual being
- Experience support around polyamorous or consensual non-monogamous desires and practices
- Be supported around fully connecting with, accepting and celebrating queer identity
- Explore and design a satisfying erotic life for this moment of your life
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Come alive, fueled by pleasure
Charlotte and Chris have 20 years of experience in the sexuality field and have been Sexological Bodyworkers since 2006. Together they co-created PleasureMechanics.com where they have created resources that have supported tens of thousands of folks in building more satisfying erotic lives filled with pleasure, joy and connection.
We are looking forward to being of service to you!
Frequently Asked Questions
Is sex coaching an alternative to sex therapy?
Sex Coaching is NOT Sex Therapy. Coaching focuses on the tools, techniques and strategies that will allow you to have the kind of sex life you desire. Therapy is more issue-focused, talking through the concerns and problems that may be affecting your sexual wellbeing. Therapy is more driven by diagnosis and problem-based solutions. Coaching is about optimizing, developing skills and working with your innate abilities.
Athletic coaches work with individual athletes and teams to help them become the best athletes they can be. Coaches provide motivation and support, but also lay out practice sessions, drills and work-outs to allow the athlete to get stronger, faster, better at their sport. Great coaches support great athletes – no Olympic athlete wins the gold without a trusted coach.
We offer YOU our personalized attention so YOU can create the erotic life you want, one experience at a time. We’ll be there to guide the way, set the drills, unpack your challenges and celebrate your wins.
What exactly does this involve?
All of our sessions take place through online video conferencing, on the phone or in person in the Hudson Valley of NY. There is additional communication each month through email or voice messaging.
We provide confidential support, specific information, expert insight and compassionate motivation to guide you along your path to more pleasure. We also give you specific physical practices (“homework” but a lot more fun!) to help you develop the physical skills that will assist you in your goals.
Sex, just like a sport, is a developed physical skill – both feeling more pleasure and being a better lover require specific skill sets. Many people are frustrated with their sex life, and all they need is to develop one or more skills that will transform the way they experience sex and intimacy.
But sex is also a lot more than a physical act – it is perhaps the most complex social identity we humans have. Your sexuality exists within a BioPsychoSocial framework:
- Bio – your unique human body and all of it’s current abilities and experiences
- Psycho – your mental and emotional landscape, and the impact of every human relationship you’ve ever had
- Social – your specific social context and culture (this piece impacts us FAR more than most realize)
Recognizing the BioPsychoSocial framework can help us unravel the root causes of what you are experiencing and help develop compassion and context for what might feel like a very personal and individual issue.
My sexual struggles feel complex – How do we decide what to focus on during coaching?
Before your first session you will complete an intake survey that maps out what is going on in your sex life and what you want to explore together.
In our first session, we will talk more about what you would like to work on, explore the details of where you are now and your goals for our work together. Together we will develop a game plan, including one or more physical practices for you to explore on your own time. We will then email you follow-up information and resources.
In each session, we will explore what happened as you tried out the physical practices since the last session. You can share with us exactly what happened, ask questions or address the outcome of the practices. We will then develop a new game plan that builds on your success from the first session.
In between coaching sessions you can email us at anytime with questions, progress reports or success stories! The more you communicate with us the more insight we’ll gain and the better advice and guidance we can offer.